An Unfinished List

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Ever since I learned how to make a list, I’ve been documenting my life. I used to make lists of all the towns I’ve lived in, all the states and all the addresses, as well as all the schools, teachers and best friends I’ve ever known. It made me feel better to see these things written down in black and white, and it soothed the fear that I might forget important details. Perhaps I was trying to make sense of all the moving my family had done. Perhaps I thought examining those lists would help me come up with a formula to help figure out why life was so unpredictable. Perhaps I was hoping to use that formula to solve this equation called life, and then I’d be able to live the rest of my days with a different remainder.

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To Look at Her

boots

You’d never think
she was the sort

to hide a flask away in her sock drawer

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Could you please pass the mustard?

I burned my finger taking a casserole out of the oven a while back. It was a Friday night, and some old friends were visiting. “Ouch!” I yelped, because I couldn’t help it; but I was in the kitchen all by myself, so no one heard me. It really hurt, but calling everyone’s attention to this newly burning pain was not my first response. Instead, I felt embarrassed that I hadn’t been more careful, so I blamed myself rather than the hot oven. Also, since these were friends we hadn’t seen in a long time and I wanted to make a good impression, I chose not to interrupt the smooth flowing conversation in the other room. Instead, I made myself a glass of ice water to drink and held it so the tip of my finger was submerged in the cold liquid.

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A Sacred Quarantine

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I sat in the room with the four white walls
and the pristine painted pews
and the cushion on the bench

worn through, but still
padded enough for comfort.

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On Becoming Real

ragamuffinWe mark the movement of time with rituals, naming the repetitions as they come: the first day of the work week is Monday, the first month of the year is January, the first meal of the morning is breakfast, and the first of three hundred and sixty five days is a New Year. Some names are more significant than others, so the rituals are more detailed. We count down the hours, we raise a glass at midnight, we make promises for the year to come, but more often than not, the changing over to a new set of numbers doesn’t feel any different. My daughter turned thirteen this week and I asked her, “So how does it feel to be a teenager?” Her answer was this: “Just like it felt to not be one.” And yet, I can look back at that year in my own life and say, “I remember what it felt like to be thirteen,” or better yet, “I know what life was like in 1989.” Why? Because we also mark time by important events that happen in our lives, and if an event is significant enough, it can tint the shade of an entire year.

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